ESTP

I want to write about the type I understand second most but I am too excited with my new findings. It's about the type I find extremely difficult to read before this. No doubt I can spot an ESTP if I see one, but I used to not be able to tell what are they thinking about what they want. Now I have an ESTP so close to me that I can observe. It's like...wonderful.

Problems with reading ESTP I know previously it's because somehow ESTP guys love to flirt so basically they aren't being their real self and ESTP girls tend to be very cautious around me. Once they sense no danger towards me, they will let down their guard. I was fortunate to have a 16 year old ESTP and it's best to observe someone raw. Because people change according to their experiences and the younger the person being observed, the better the interpretations.

Alright. Let me start with how to spot an ESTP:

With their physical characteristics:

1) Eyes. Usually small with small eyelids.

2) Thick eyebrows.

3) Sides of the nose is fleshy. Fleshy earlobes.

4) Heavy Chin.

I wish to show you some pictures of my ESTP friends but I figured out it's not so nice revealing people. Some types do not like to be revealed. This type is one of them.

On general evaluation, they are considered the alphas. They are usually on top. They are quick-witted, usually very good at calculations, adventerous, can be very charming and also very impulsive.

They are usually non-emotional or clingy and they valued friendship greatly. They can be made into good friends because usually they do not hold grudges. They have little patience for emotionally needy or fake people.

If they have the first impression of you being intimidating, they will tend to be very cautious or sometimes a snob in front of you. Once the barrier is broken, they can be great friends. It took three years for me to break a barrier with a female ESTP. She is extremely a good friend to me now. I had to show that I was vulnerable in order for her to let her guards down.

ESTP males tend to behave oddly in front of me. They think of females as females and they are extremely flirty. They have the tendency to flirt a lot. Think James Bond. He is an ESTP. Once being hurt, they will resort to becoming a player and not believing in love & relationships for a very long time.

The reason why I find it hard to read an ESTP because they build walls with people. They refused to tell you what they think or how they feel, because they do not want people to know. As alphas, they do not like outsiders or enemies to know their weaknesses. Another reason is that they change their mind so frequent. Their minds change from time to time. They are rarely consistent. Besides that, as Thinkers, sometimes they do not tell people their problems unless people can really help with it.

Their strengths usually lie in being charming, extremely good at making decisions based on cost-benefit analysis, adventerous, the leadership type and have a very sharp mind.

Their weaknesses lies in their love and relationships, their love for risks and also their big mouth. Adventure-seeking ESTPs will find it hard to stay in monogamous relationships. They will tend to jump from one relationship to another,seeking love or someone to really understand them. They tend to get distracted easily by attractive looking people. Or either that, they have to tendency to stick to a partner who will abuse them.

They also enjoy taking risks. It's part of their lives. You can expect extreme slopes living with an ESTP. With the highs and lows. They enjoy businesses and they dare to think and dream big. Because of their intelligence which is above the average, they tend to get ahead faster and better than others.

However, their weakness which is being too overconfident without being hands-on on a certain project and taking too much risks plus high leverage which will lead them to failures. Relationships will also tend to screw their careers. For example, Tiger Woods whom was reported to be a sex addict and cheating on his wife had lost few contracts. Donald Trump was married for three times. Although he was a real estate mogul, he was highly in debt.

Immature ESTPs will get into trouble by talking too much or being overconfident. Donald Trump got slammed by Obama recently. Donald Trump was saying that Obama was not fit to be a president and indirectly hinted that people should vote for Trump to be President. While Donald was busy questioning about Obama's birth certificate and all, Obama has already planned to kill the world's most wanted so-called criminal; Osama.

Watch this on how Obama took down Trump.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8TwRmX6zs4&feature=related

Moral of the story; don't talk too much or pick fights with someone who is stronger and has more power than you although you may seem intelligent and capable. Never underestimate your opponent too.

The kind of mates ESTP are attracted to are usually ; ISFJ, ISTJ and INFP.

ESTP guys like demure girls but not too clingy. Whatever is it, one of the most important factor is good looking and straightforwardness.

ESTP females may prefer smarter guys but because they are smarter than average girls and guys, finding a match may be really tough.

Deep inside the ESTP:

1. More often anot, despite their high intelligence, they are always confused about their existence.
2. They want to enjoy life, jumping from one relationship to another, changing careers, travel place to place. They are always looking for something new, hoping to find that special something, or a feeling.
3. Around the people they respect, they tend to be more quiet. They have low patience for stupid, clingy people and stoners.
4. They are very good with directions.
5. Although they are Perceivers, they tend to be very neat.
6. Their ideal partner is someone stable, a follower, someone who listens to them when they rant and able to make decisions without being too excited about possibilities or spoilt by choices. Someone open to their ideas of fun.
7. Partners of ESTP can expect alot of adventure and fun in the relationship. ESTPs are also very generous in buying gifts for their mates.
8. ESTPs are very brand conscious. They enjoy luxury goods especially clothings or gadgets.

How to communicate with an ESTP:

1. Listen to them. Laugh at their jokes.
2. Respect them.
3. Join them for fun. They are very spontaneous.
4. Don't be too serious or too blur.
5. Be honest and sincere. They can spot fakeness and shoot you down with it.

Example of Famous ESTPs:

1. Lady Gaga
2. Madonna
3. Donald Trump
4. Tiger Woods
5. Bruce Wayne (Batman)
6. James Bond
7. Jackie Chan
8. Eddie Murphy
9. Kimora

ENFP

I always wanted to write about personality types and my encounter with them in real life. What are they really like in reality besides the theories I've read online. And which type should I start off first? Of course the type I understand the most! My type!

ENFP.

Extroverted- Expressive. Outgoing. Enjoys being in company of people.

iNtuition- Thinks alot about the past and the future.

Feeling- Make decisions based on feelings; on what they feel is right and according to values.

Perceiving- Delay decision making. Opportunist.

Their strengths and weaknesses can be found on the internet if you google "ENFP Strengths" but I'll just summarize their general characteristics :

> They are always happy. You can often find them smiling. They are highly optimistic too.

>They are creative as well. Can draw quite well. Ideas seem natural to them. They always seem to have alot of ideas.

>They love life. They are constantly excited about something. Whether it's a good or bad thing. Their mind tend to generate a lot of possibilities of an event.

>As a child, they tend to get along well with most of their peers. They are also bright; being able to understand a particular lesson quickly.

>They are fast learners. They like to learn everything and anything. This explains the various talents and capabilities they have. However, they have the tendency to get bored very fast.

>They are known as "Journalists". They love to experience different things in life and love to ask various questions about people. There is this quote which fits them well. "A three year old ask about three hundred questions a day, an adult asks about an average of ninety questions. Well, I guess I am still a three-year old then.

>They love jobs that associate with people. Teaching. Consultation. They also love writing and performing too.

Here are their weaknesses:

>They tend to get distracted rather easily. There is a need to isolate themselves sometimes.

>Sometimes, they can appear to be gullible. Easily trust people.

>Whenever bad things happen, they tend to put the blame on themselves, especially in relationships.

>They are very sensitive to criticism. Although on the outside, they seem or said that they are okay with it, they actually aren't. ENFPs need to realize that criticisms do not mean the end of the world; but rather a means of improving oneself.

>Sometimes, they take crazy risks in life for the sake of the thrill.

>They are usually unorganized and messy. They may find house chores mundane and boring although they may still do it out of responsibility. They dislike routine and repetitive tasks.

>They may start a project immediately but find it hard to complete it. They will tend to get excited by a new project.

The kind of jobs they will be attracted to:

>Journalist

>Actor

>Teacher

>Entrepreneur

>Psychologist

>Television Reporter

>Politician / Diplomat

>Consultant

Relationship wise:

A kind of partner that would for anything for the mate. They are often supportive of their partners. Their natural skill of identifying what a person likes and dislikes. Sensitive to their partner's needs. Have a lot of creative ideas for dates and so on.

They are usually loyal and dedicated. They may have the tendency to get bored but will stay in the relationship because their values. They highly idealize their partners; always believing the current one is the best they ever have.

However, if they are not happy or "bored", they will jump from one relationship to another. It is not difficult for an Enfp to bounce back as they are always excited by new possibilities.

Enfps believe in fairytales. They dreamt of everlasting beautiful love all the time. They can be romantic too.

Enfps often mistaken that a kind of partner they need is a romantic and sensitive one. However, when they got such partner, it will turn them off because of the fakeness, insincerity and shallowness.

The kind of partner that Enfp would be suitable for is the smart, strong and not a clingy type.

Enfps love sharing ideas, discussing various topics. They enjoyed the company of other NTs, NFs and SPs.

NTs would be more suitable for eNFp because they are usually smart and non-controlling. They give the freedom that Enfp needs and intellectual stimulation. With NTs' intelligence, it would be enough for the eNFp to stay in the relationship as NTs are types that always questions life and find ways to improve on it. Example of NTs would be eNTj, eNTp,iNTj,iNTp.

Enfp needs someone to tell them that they are wrong. They also need someone who is more responsible and organized than them. Someone that gives them a lot of space and not needing them to always be by their side. Someone who is open to new ideas.

Sensors may not be suitable for the Enfp as Enfp speculates and love to explore life a lot with various theories and possibilities. Sensors are more practical people. NTs can make dreams of Enfp to come true by being able to see what an Enfp is seeing.

Okay, before I bore you with the excessive details of what's suitable and what's not. Here's how to identify an Enfp; Always happy. Optimistic. Enjoy helping others. Ask a lot of questions. Encouraging. Deep.

Do you believe that similar types have the similar look?

There is the tall and short Enfp. I'll show you the tall one first.

Sandra Bullock.

Yap Jia Yee

Gwen Stefani

Sasirekha

I am not sure if you can see the resemblance in the facial features. But they have crafty eyes and sharper features than the shorter Enfp.Now let me show you the shorter Enfp look. Well, I obviously fall into this category. =/

That's if I would be look like a Caucasian.

If I were to look like a Korean;

Observe the eyes. The space between the eyes. The wide forehead. The cheeks that seem flawless and full. Jawline not that significant. In contrary to the taller Enfp, shorter Enfps have rounder, wide eyes. Let me show you the last picture of an Enfp whom is a friend of mine.

Her name is Bibi and she is gorgeous.

If you have seen me in reality and have my msn, you would see the resemblance of my eyes, forehead and the cheeks.

I find this findings fascinating.

And thank you my friends who allowed me to use their pictures. :)