Male celebrities that I find attractive

Years later, when I look back, these post would somehow remind me of what attractiveness means.

1. Keanu Reeves. 

First got attracted by him in The Matrix, with his coolness and calmness. Very masculine and extremely desirable deep voice. He is always wearing a tux or a suit like in The Constantine. There is where I developed my liking for men in smart formal wear.

2. Alexander skarsgard

His alpha-maleness in True Blood. Dangerous, daring and sexy at the same time. Has a very soft spot for the one he loves, which is very desirable.

3.Adam Levine

Perfect face. Gorgeous eyes. Sexy moves. He is one hell of a dreamboat.

Other celebrities that I find appealing but not as much as the three above; I think it's the lack of personality besides the good looks:

4. Jason Statham

Very physically active and action-oriented with little words to say. Masculine.

Saw him in Transporter, Crank and The Expendables.

5. Chris Evans

Liked his boyish-cheekiness in "What's Your Number?"

One of the famous character being played is Captain America.

6. Channing Tatum
Fits the perfect male stereotype. Strong, silent and always know the right thing to do.
Saw him in a few romance movies like "Dear John."

7. Ryan Reynolds
This guy is just a plain cutie. Saw him in "The Proposal" and "Green Lantern."
Nothing much to be said besides his looks.

Yeap. That's it. Most girls usually stare at girls whether in shopping malls or in the movies (I don't quite get that, are you girls secretly a lesbian??!), but I am extremely normal. In the movies, I check out the guys. In shopping malls, well...... ;)

Relationships As a Validation ( Part 1)

I have been meaning to write about this since end of last year. This post will be rather similar to Dating at This Age but in a more in-depth version of it. Of what a relationship really is to many people and to what they are searching for.

To some people, a relationship signifies the validation of a person's identity.
"Am I worthy of love?"
"Am I lovable?"
"Am I desirable?"

Like a beautiful lady a man could be attracted to besides the admiration of her beauty, the ability to secure a relationship with her somewhat lifts his self-esteem and value as well. People would look at him and ask, "How on earth could he get her?!"

Because jealousy from the same sex, his competitors, the male population is much more satisfying than admiration from a group of females. It would also somewhat reflect his class, his standards and his worth as a whole.

But for some men, it takes more than looks to secure his interest. Like the ability of a woman to hold a conversation, her sense of humour and her appetite for life.

A validation of identity.
Do people like who they are when they are with a person in a particular relationship?
Do you both laugh a lot?
Do you like doing a number of similar things together?
Do you feel like you could say anything?
Are you comfortable having the person near without a conversation?

You jump from one relationship to another.
Constantly searching for something.
Searching for yourself in every relationship you were in.
How do you feel when you're with that person?
Are you happy?
When you feel unsatisfied, you left.
Because you don't like the way you are when you are with that person.

Life is really about us.
Like for example, a man likes being around a woman who sometimes needs his help.
It makes him feel like a man.
To do the things she is less capable of.
The same goes to the ladies.
She likes a man who can make her feel like a woman.
Not a tool, not a trophy only meant to be shown off.

But some people took it the wrong way.
Some people stayed in bad relationships because they fear.
Fear of being alone, fear of losing themselves, the validation of their identity, and fear to try again.
They do not believe that it is possible for themselves to find someone else better for them.
These people disliked themselves so much that they think other people wouldn't love and appreciate them if they knew who they really are.

This explains why some women fear when she is reaching her late twenties and so on.
That she would just grab any man that kneel before for her hand in marriage.
Or why she would be willing to marry her abusive boyfriend.
A woman somewhat validates herself by staying in a bad relationship.

For men, its the screwing around marathon.
It's the alpha male's ego.
To spread their seed around town.
Behind all those joys and excitements of lust,
There lies an insecure little boy.
Sex may be just sex, what he is exposing is not a deadly tool,
But the most vulnerable part of him.
The most vulnerable part of him isn't hidden like a female's.
It is exposed.
It needs to feel loved and that others would want it.
That is how they get their validation.

We could not blame all these men and women for their actions as a result of their insecurities.
We were hardly taught by our family, teachers and society as a whole on how to love ourselves and how to love somebody.
Thanks to the media, women are portrayed as the one who always need to be saved.
So therefore, she has to act passive and submissive.
Thanks to the superheroes like Iron Man and Batman,
A man has to have luxurious cars, mansions and many women throwing their kittens around him to make him  feel on top of the world.
Is there anything wrong with it?
Not really.
Except that it creates an idea of a somewhat perfect identity one should have.

Who do you want to be?
And how do you see yourself when you are in that relationship?
Is the price you pay for that validation worth it?

If you aren't happy on your own,
And believe that you need to find someone in order to be happy,
It's time for you to check,
Love and pay more attention to yourself.

If you couldn't even date yourself,
Why would anyone wanna date you?

My Lovely Sister

I love my sister. She's beautiful and she completes me.
Occasionally, she cleans and cooks for me.
She handles all the stuff that require some handy skills.
In return, I help her with her assignments and other stuff  that requires communication with other people.
She is also very funny, and not easily affected by criticisms.
Talking to her is also nice because she listens like a dog.

Here are some of my sister's pictures. She is a cam-whore freak and undeniably very vain and attractive.

All seems fun until while taking a personal picture while lying down, after a few shots.... The phone fell and hit her eye.

Sister...I love you la... You're so funny. <3

Realization

To strive for excellence, you must be willing to pay for a price.

That might include your time, monetary resources, and even your relationships with other people.

We can never buy back time but we can learn to improve in the future.

Resources are trade-able.

To think that you can have one person by your side supporting you while you achieve your life goals is pure idealism. It doesn't happen. You can't fight for it. In the end, alone is where you will stand.

Love is an emotion, not logic

Love is a feeling, an attachment towards someone. An instant drawn towards someone. Being near to someone you love makes you feel life is okay. Without that someone, life just seem to crumble. That's why most people had downfalls when they have problems with their relationships or a break up. Some take it as a motivation to prove that life can still go on, but for the better. They say that happiness depends solely on what you are attached on. Like a child that clings on to his/her mother, to detach from the parent seem really painful.

To avoid pain, avoid attachment

Happiness is only real when you have someone to share it with. When you are at the peak, there are certain people that you want to share it with. Glory is not much of a glory when you finally stood at the peak and when there is no one to cheer you. But this comes with a price. Tendency for disappointments. To detach and to exit is the best way to confirm that life in the end, you are somehow alone.

Independence is when you can finally stand alone

It is said that organisms that depend on each other have higher chance of survival. But bear in mind that, the ones that offer you help, are the ones who are going to threaten you with it.

Feelings are important

We tend to neglect our true feelings, when we couldn't explain them, we regard them as illogical. But feelings is what make us different from other organisms. We do have survival instinct, instinct to kill and instinct to mate like animals. But we are no animals. The failure to express feelings properly is what caused misery.

We often take things for granted

It's not that we don't know what we have until it's gone, we know it's there but we just don't appreciate it. We all have our limits, and when we give too much with hope that comes with it, we can't give anymore. The defense mechanism kicks in. We built a wall. Their cries and begging are deaf to our ears. We can't hear or see them anymore.

It is crucial to have masks if you want to survive

Whoever tells you that it's better to be yourself obviously do not know the realities of life and doesn't have things coming easy for them. Yes, it is crucial but there are a few close ones that we can finally take off that plastic smile.

Whatever it is.

Realized that end of the day,

It's your own two feet for you to walk.

Hands that I have held,

Ears that have been listening,

I can confirm that

Now is the mark, the beginning.

The End

Some friendships are meant to end.

That is the stage of life.

Although I do wish and hope all my friendships would last throughout my life

To make them really meaningful,

But the fact is this.

I tried a lot, but to no avail.

Lasting friendships are not easy.

And I always think that friendships should be easy.

But I see the reality of life now.

Maybe it is true that we do not need many friends, but a few good quality ones.

And today onwards,

I will live with a new motto.

"Live for yourself and don't try anymore."

To treat people sincerely with no intentions?

What bull shit is that.

The world is realistic.

Have no more faith in such things.

Finally understood why groups don't survive to adulthood.

Have a few good friends and shall just stick to that.

Born To Die

Feet don't fail me now
Take me to the finish line
Though my heart, it breaks every step that I take
But I'm hoping that the gates,
They'll tell me that you're mine
Walking through the city streets
Is it by mistake or design?
I feel so alone on a Friday night
Can you make it feel like home, if I tell you you're mine
It's like I told you honey

Don't make me sad, don't make me cry
Sometimes love is not enough and the road gets tough
I don't know why
Keep making me laugh,
Let's go get high
The road is long, we carry on
Try to have fun in the meantime

Come and take a walk on the wild side
Let me kiss you hard in the pouring rain
You like your girls insane
Choose your last words
This is the last time
Cause you and I, we were born to die

Lost but now I am found
I can see but once I was blind
I was so confused as a little child
Tried to take what I could get
Scared that I couldn't find
All the answers, honey

The world does not appear in the way your lens show,

You can't make the world move with your mighty wand,

If only you realized what a fool you were,

But I can't tell you,

Because it will disrupt the nature of how life would turn out to be,

By the time you realized,

It will be too late, too late.

Reasons Why Children Do Not Listen To Their Parents

1) Parents do not provide well

2) Arguments among parents