The Child

As much as we have grown up, there's a child inside of us.


We came to this world, pure and full of curiousity.

Experiences made us who we are today.

So let's take a little step back and reflect.

Every child yearns to be held, shown love and be protected.

We love it when our mother fed us, comforted us when we cry and taught us how to speak.

We love it when she spoke gently and kindly to us.

We waited for Daddy to come home.

We like it when he carried us,took us out, bought us our favourite food and toys.

We want to cling to them and want them to assure us that everything is alright, would be okay.

When we go to school, we wanted to come home and tell them what happened and show them our achievements.

We want them to be proud of us.

But how many people had this privilege of having a beautiful childhood?

Some had parents whom neglected them because of work.

Some had parents whom argued all the time.

Some had a single parent, or none at all.

Some had parents whom simply just scolded and punished their child whenever their child did something wrong, without understanding their feelings and explaining to them properly.

Children are really not stubborn, they just wanted attention.

They just wanted love, hugs and kisses.

The traditional method of punishing, especially usually practised by Asians,

Made them defensive and angry towards life.

So the child carries this emotional baggage into the teenage years and subsequently, into adulthood.

In every partner they searched for, subconsciously, they are searching for something that is lost during their childhood.

Perhaps it's attention, perhaps it's protection, perhaps it's warm touches.

Someone that can make them feel like a child again.

Sometimes, the person placed expectations on the partner.

The good or bad part of their parents.

Like if his mother isn't being nurturing enough, he would expect it from his partner.

Like if her father isn't being protective and caring enough, she would expect it from her partner.

A person whom has strict childhood, yearns for someone who can make them feel free.

The child whom was once struggling to break free.

A person whom has an independent childhood, yearns for someone who can hold them down.

The child whom once wanted attention and stability so badly.

Whoever you're parents are, you would most likely be like them.

If you have strict parents, you would be strict.

If you have ignorant parents, you would possibly be ignorant as well,

And wouldn't desire marriage.

But some wouldn't want to make the mistakes their parents did.

They were determined to give the child a better life.

If you have a father who couldn't even afford to provide you the basic necessities in life,

You would be determined to be rich.

If you have ignorant parents whom expects you to be independent,

You would train your child to be independent too, but you wouldn't let the child fall too hard because you are able to back them up.

If you have a cheating parent, you would vowed to yourself never to cheat or be fearful of your partner and always being suspicious.

Children from good families tend to be less needy when it comes to relationships.

That is why some adults, could still be single even though they're in their 20s.

They always believed that things would be good in the end,

Like how their parents end up to be.

Silly girls go in and out relationships, looking for a replacement for their father.

But perhaps for boys, they avoided relationships because they fear commitment.

To conclude this,

Be a good parent to your child in the future,

Because the childhood will determine the child's attitude towards life.

And be nice to your parents, while they are still here.