A Perfect Girlfriend

You can ask a man on what kind of girl he likes and he will tell you all sorts of things like certain characteristics and all. But when it comes to real thing, it is rather or may be different than his dream girl. Because the his girl in the real world is better than the one in his dreams. Because she is real. Because she could complete his soul unlike the one in his dreams.

Many people had asked me before on what kind of guy I like. I could give you an endless list on my set of expectations; Tall, dark, sharp features, athletic, smart, outgoing, responsible, ambitious, hardworking, sexy,no fats,same religion, etc etc etc.

But deep down in my soul, all I wanted is just someone who really cares and understands me, someone who could see me through and willing to go an extra mile for me. It's just that simple. That someone must have really love me in order to make that kind of effort. It's love that push us beyond our boundaries and the feeling is almost impossible to describe. Whatever that comes with the "expectations" is a bonus. ;) *I can't wink in real life*

My angelic sexy man~

Anyway, this is based on my experience and in-depth analysis of what a girlfriend should be and what does a man consciously and subconsciously expects from his woman.

Here's the list:

1. A perfect girlfriend knows how to carry herself well. In terms of grooming and communication in order not to embarrass her man. He would be soo proud and eager to show her to his friends and family.
2. She loves his family as much as she loves him, probably more.
3. She shall not dwell on things that is unlikely to happen in the future.
4. She knows better than to make her problems his.
5. She knows how to turn her man on, pushing all the right buttons and make him go rocket sky high.
6. She knows his interests and priorities in life.
7. She gives him his space in order for him to do his things. He had a life before her, and besides her. She doesn't mourn at home on how her man neglects her and how he "prefers" to spend time with his friends and not her.
8. She knows how to make rational decisions, not being unreasonable just to get his attention and test his limits of "loving" her.
9. She can be independent and not clingy. A clingy girlfriend who spends all her free time complaining about her man is definitely a turn-off. There is more to life than just romance and roses. I know there is a number of guys who are intimidated by my work. But have you fail to realize that I am capable of taking care of myself and do not need to rely on you for petty stuff? I do not stay at home, chatting with strangers on facebook and msn, just to get more male attention. I do not spend most my free time outside flirting, shopping or doing useless things like bitching about other girls. Have you noticed that I am much more reasonable and rational in comparison to other girls? Anybody can go crazy with too much free time, thanks to the ability of the complex mind to complicate reality.
10. She doesn't bring back past problems to make the current problems worse. Wouldn't be really sweet of her to use guilt manipulation to hurt you and make you feel worse.
11. She knows better than to make your arguments/disagreements a public show.
12. She takes care of her body well. Exercise and good personal hygiene
13. She tells you where she is going and not to make you worry like hell. She always has her handphone with her, so getting to her is just a call away.
14. She doesn't believe that you wanna have sex with every girl you complimented.
15. She knows how to get along well with your family and friends.
16. She isn't entirely a princess; has basic knowledge and does household chores and cooking.
17. She loves you for who you are. Embracing your strengths and accepting your weaknesses.

These are just ideas on how to make a relationship better. Because most of the time, the cause of arguments is due to a female's insecurities and a male's tactless-ness. And of course, nobody is perfect, but the effort being invested in the relationship will make it all worthwhile.

So yeah, for the girlfriends who hit most of the points above, reward yourself with a warm bikini wax. For the guys who have such girlfriends, reward her with a marathon make-out session.

For the girls who still live under her unrealistic set of expectations of her guy, you should realized that your man would never have the intention of hurting you and it's time to see things from a different angle. Or perhaps, probably, you do not love him as much as you thought you did. Probably that's why you're mad at the silly little things, argued, cried and the guy still doesn't seem to understand. When things get really worse, the guy blows up and yes, that's it. The perfect moment to leave the relationship because you have "tried" your best to save it. What a way to comfort yourself and tell your friends he was just not the right one for you. We, humans, insecure manipulators.

Commitments and the joy of being in a relationship. The cycles and phases of a relationship.

The only way to make a relationship last is by staying in it. But if it's too tough, perhaps it isn't meant to be. Confusing, isn't it, girls? You have just lost the "feeling". Feelings tend to be lost when the other start to take another for granted.