Plastic Surgery

As mentioned in one of my earliest post, I once desired to have a plastic surgery.

It's not that I'm so hideous or I look like an ape that even a male ape would be terrified of me; it's just that... What's wrong with wanting to be perfect?

Perhaps I should start with botox to slim down my ever-chubby-hamster-like face.

Sure, it looks alright with this age, but as I grow older, those cheeks will sag and I will look like a bull dog.

I have the typical asian nose, how about making it look a little sharper?

An increase in a cup or two would make me look super delicious....

If I take all of these surgeries, would I would be considered as having perfect physique?

Will I be able to look good in photographs, that when anyone sees my picture, be it a guy or a girl, would want to add me in facebook or any other social network?

Will I get extra advantage or benefit when I am in public places?

Will the waiter give me an extra muffin when I dine at Kenny Rogers?

Will the guards allow me into private premises without much questioning?

Will I be able to find my one true love, the perfect man who strives for perfection like me?

Will he stay with me, not lay his eyes on any other women because I am the only one in his world?

Will I receive flowers everyday that my house would stink of flower corpses?

Is plastic surgery an acceptable norm?

The K-pop thing is pretty popular nowadays.

You cannot deny that it's the looks that attracts you first, then the music later.

Here are some interesting facts:

1. 76 percent (!) of Korean women in their 20s and 30s have undergone plastic surgery. Most of them were epicanthoplasty (i.e. the "double-eyelid surgery".)
2. 25 percent of Korean mothers who have daughters between the ages of 12 and 16 suggested plastic surgery to their daughter
3. 27.4 percent of Korean college graduate job seekers (19 percent of men, 34.1 percent of women) thought they did not fare well in the interview because of their looks. 28.5 precent of job seekers have already undergone plastic surgery or have planned plastic surgery in order to perform better in the job market

A Korean friend once said that it's normal that girls ask for plastic surgery for their 16th or 18th birthday present.

Have this widely popular Korean celebrities' good looks culture affect the Koreans?

As in the pressure of meeting up to a certain expectation of beauty?

I once joked that I would save money for 5 years then go for a rhinoplasty.

But it didn't seem funny to me anymore, when I saw a friend of mine heading to Taiwan and coming back with a new nose.

And another friend who enthusiastically told me about her plans for plastic surgery.

Is their desire for acceptance, to be loved and admired that strong?

Are they that desperate?

Can plastic surgery really grant them happiness?

What if the plastic surgery went beyond their wildest expectations?

Do you really rely on other people's opinions, approval and admiration to feel good about yourself?

Have you ever placed yourself so low that you aren't even capable of loving yourself?

Do you really place on your source of happiness on other people's hands?

That they are capable of making you go rocket high and rock bottom with just a few words?

Are beautiful people really happy all the time?

With so many love from many people, even strangers?

Will jealous monsters creep out from these people's souls and try to destroy you and tear you down?

How does it feels like to be compared to other beautiful people?

Do beautiful people win all the time?

Will your boyfriend or husband ever cheat on you because you are so perfect already?

Then why are divorces happening so frequently in the celebrity world?

I had this serious acne problem for a few months.

I did not dare to go out because of my looks.

Sure, I missed out fun and opportunities.

Then, one day, I look at the mirror and started to feel sad.

I asked myself:

Why do I not love myself?

Why do I want to change so much about myself?

I touch my face, my cheeks, my nose and my forehead.

I looked at my tired eyes.

How much I have been straining them, putting them to so much work.

Had I not love myself, like how I love and care for other people?

I smiled and my braces show.

Did I not dare to smile because I look look ugly and turn people off?

Is it that I care too much about what other people think that I do not even allow myself to smile, to even be happy?

Did my friends really shy away from me because of the way I look?

Did my family reject me?

No.

If one were to go for a plastic surgery and find love after that.

Is that true love?

I thought true love is someone that loves you for whoever you are.

For better or for worse.

Is true love based solely on physical attraction?

I am going to quote my buddy;

"F*** YOU, I AM AWESOME."

So love yourself,

And not let anyone define and judge you.

P/S: This is just a post about learning to love yourself. I am not against people who wants to plastic surgery or did already. What I have posted about the benefits of being beautiful, is not what I desire to have. For example, wanting my friends list on facebook to hit maximum; if I wanted that, it would happen long time ago but right now, the number 800 just seem so auspicious to me. This is just a general assumption of why people want to be beautiful. And I am actually satisfied with my meatballs.

HairCut

My hair looks like this now...

Except that:

1) I am not as gorgeous as Zooey Deschanel

2) My hair is not thick enough

3) My features ain't sharp enough

In conclusion, I look like a freak.

Misinterpretations of Rich Dad Poor Dad Books

I picked up Robert Kiyosaki's first book at the age of 18. That book changed my viewpoint of life almost instantly. I have read most of the Rich Dad's series, and have almost the whole collection of his books. So basically, I am in the right position to state my viewpoints.

Robert's books are MISLEADING.

Most people are misinterpreting his books, especially those who are still studying.

Here are some of his philosophies:

1. Schools don't train us to be rich, they train us to be employees. And we cannot be rich by simply being employees.
2. We have to create our own path, our own business in order to create our own wealth. We must not be afraid of failures.
3. The government tax us for what we've earned. Why giving them our hard-earned money?
4. Why use your own money to build a business? We can always seek financial aid if our business idea is good enough. We can obtain money from banks (governments are always supporting SMEs', so there's always a fund allocated for that) or even people we know who simply have money but do not know what to do with them.
5. NEVER invest in FDs, insurance, mutual funds and all those financial instruments because they do not generate returns good enough.
6. Never be afraid to work for free. Find a mentor to help you.

There are many more but I am just listing a few. If you're a student or a fresh graduate, you have to read this. Just as any excited young individual, the passion and fire is wild and fierce, I headed to Rich Dad's Advice. As I explained the following points above, I will also include my personal experience.

Schools don't train us to be rich, they train us to be employees. And we cannot be rich by simply being employees. There is a certain level of truth in that. But you have to bear in mind that, (if you know MBTI) there are many different types of people out there. Some are meant to lead, some are meant to follow and some are meant to create. What does the above sentence tells you? To not place too much importance or emphasize on your studies? To start a new business immediately? Do not listen to your parents or teachers, because if they are so good, they would be rich. True enough that our education system do not provide us financial education and we must go out there, test the waters, be practical and embark on your journey of entrepreneurship.

As mentioned, I was 18 when I read the book. The idea that I interpreted is that I need to learn as much as possible. So I picked up property books, forex books, stock books, whatever financial books I can get my hands on out there.

I skipped class because I have to work. I earned more than sufficient income from my home tutoring, more than a fresh graduate's salary. But I wanted more. So I worked on weekends and whichever projects that my company gave me. (I was working as a promoter, due to good relationships with my supervisor, I was able to get higher paying jobs than other promoters, from Rm100-RM150 per day)

I completed my foundation course in May 2009, with CGPA of 3.09.

"Not bad," I thought, despite skipping classes and studying last minute.

In late 2009, I was offered a job as a loan consultant. My job basically requires me to get customer to sign up for Standard Chartered Bank's loan packages, whether it is a commercial property or a residential property. The commission scheme was attractive.

From there, that's when my real journey started.

I learned that there are certain requirements for loans to be approved. And no doubt, out of the 10 loans I submitted, only 2 gets approved.

With the little money I obtained, although I was being discouraged by my friends and family that I was wasting my time, I continued working. Because rich dad said that you must learn to work for free for long-term benefits. I was learning sales and financing. I thought I was on the right track. I took up another job as an insurance agent, to learn about more about personal financial education.

Over the one year and half, my grades were between 2.8-3.0. I didn't care because my studies will not interfere with my future plans. My plan is to earn as much money and learn as much as I can so I can start investing in properties and start my own business and be a millionaire by 25. I skipped class so often and I hardly touched my tutorials. I was amused and amazed with myself, being able to manage so many things.

Until last year September results were out. My GPA was 1.9, below par. My PTPTN loan was pulled back by the government and I had to pay for my own fees on the next semester. With the addition of the subject I failed, the bill amounted to RM5250. The money I earned from the property project I was working on was used to fund that semester's bill.

Not only my CGPA has dropped to 2.4, so was my confidence. During internship application, I could not get accepted to investment banks such as OSK and CIMB. Even MAS wouldn't accept me.

That's when I stopped and start to wonder.

Have my thirst and hunger for success have defeated me instead of putting me ahead of others?

Will a university education really able to get me that far?

I watched my friends, those on their entrepreneur journey, having failures after failures.

End of the day, not only they lost money and time, they lost trusts and friendships.

During my course of work with the bank, I have an edge over other bankers because I was able to write better proposals with the simple addition of financial ratios which manage to get loans approved. Of course, I was also helped by my manager. I was selling investment-linked funds and was able to sell because of my knowledge and understanding of the equity market.

The point here is, with the knowledge you obtain from your course, if you know how to use it, it will be extremely valuable. Why do people that when they graduate, they tend to switch fields?

Not everybody is blessed being able to know what they want to do, what interests and is suitable for them at early age.

Let me make this a little more clear for you. No doubt Robert's books have really good concepts, that can be applied but you have to know that the market will always change.

Our parents asked us to study hard and get a job because they were from the industrial and post-war age where stability matters most.

Since we are on the information age now, that advice do not apply. And since there are so many people with a degree nowadays and the job market is extremely competitive, being an entrepreneur is the way to go, since many are looking for jobs nowadays.

At first I thought entrepreneur youths are rare and admired them greatly, but when I widen my horizon a little bit, there are many of them, most of them struggling and failing to see something obvious. They refused to see that being an entrepreneur is more than having balls and taking

risk. They do not recognize risks and fail to manage them, making the same mistake over and over again, failing again and again. Starting a new business again and again, thinking the previous fail because the idea weren't good enough. I mean sure, Robert asked us to never give up and never be afraid of failures. But there's one thing you are missing out; you forgotten and do not know what is your true value, since you diversify so much.

Few years ago, I attended this seminar organized by MoneyMastery. They called it a wealth coaching programme. I attended it because I thought it would be Robert Kiyosaki giving a talk, but it happened to be his student, Mr. K.C. See. His speech is alright with the quotes he got from the book. He was trying to promote a course, a wealth mentoring course at a price of RM10k +. In this course, you will be put into a group, brainstorm a business idea then bring it out. They will promise to mentor you with the various expertise but for the first rm10 000 you earn, you must contribute it to MoneyMastery.

Sounds like a good deal right, if they are able to help you to achieve wealth?

Think about this. You are being placed in the group. As a student or a fresh graduate, you may think your youth and creative ideas will be an asset to the group. In that group, there may be uncles or aunties with money(if they have money, then why are they there?), maybe some professional accountant or some legal assistant, engineer...they may all have something to offer.

What do you have to offer?

If you say your brilliant creative ideas would be your best contribution, then these people in the group would not want you. Because ideas are just ideas, unless you patent it. Forget about patenting, you wouldn't want to spend money on that intellectual property yet to claim its yours. Easily these people in the group, who would be your partners, can kick you out.

They do not rely on your expertise.

Or your capital.

To get the business going.

If you say school is useless, then you are just no different from any other uneducated lost people on the street.

School is where we get to sharpen and to be an expert at a certain field.

Then later, after being a master at our field, we form a business to generate more wealth for us.

Why is Bill Gates rich?

He was an expert at computers.

Why is Warren Buffet rich?

He was an expert at investing.

Why is Donald Trump rich?

He was an expert at real estates.

In order to be successful, we must be focused.

Especially if you wish to be an entrepreneur.

From one of Robert's books, "Before you quit your job"

He said there is 5 major segments of a business.

1. Product

2. Finance.

3. System

4. Legal

5. Communication.

Which would you choose to specialize?

(This post will be continued in the future.....)

*Don't give me the crap of Bill Gates didn't complete his education at Harvard so even the best school may not help you to generate wealth. Bill Gates was a genius in computer, what about you?

*Warren has no professional investing qualifications but he has the passion in investment. What is your passion? -Besides, with the complication of financial instruments nowadays, higher education is getting more important. During his time, he invested in good stocks which carried the value until now, which explains his wealth.

*Donald Trump was very proud that his son did well academically.

Transformer's New Girl

Problem

I know what's the problem now about the entrepreneurship and the trainer thing. I look around me, the successful trainers at young age; eg 27. They are successful at whatever they are doing. And many people are going towards that line of work. Soon, this idea of wealth training will go dry as the supply of it increases. Just look at the newspaper, there is so much of it. Real estate, silver and gold, forex and all sorts of financial instruments.

And many trainers now are quoting Robert Kiyosaki.

I don't want to be just a regular trainer.

I want to be exposed to the more complex market, the derivatives market.

Where you can have access and the ability to create a new kind of instrument and expose it to the current market.

I want to be an innovator.

Not following anyone's footsteps.

I do not want to manage millionaires' money.

I want to manage institutions' money.

Personal financial management is not for me.

Too many people are doing it.

I dare to dream higher, so there I will be.

ESTP

I want to write about the type I understand second most but I am too excited with my new findings. It's about the type I find extremely difficult to read before this. No doubt I can spot an ESTP if I see one, but I used to not be able to tell what are they thinking about what they want. Now I have an ESTP so close to me that I can observe. It's like...wonderful.

Problems with reading ESTP I know previously it's because somehow ESTP guys love to flirt so basically they aren't being their real self and ESTP girls tend to be very cautious around me. Once they sense no danger towards me, they will let down their guard. I was fortunate to have a 16 year old ESTP and it's best to observe someone raw. Because people change according to their experiences and the younger the person being observed, the better the interpretations.

Alright. Let me start with how to spot an ESTP:

With their physical characteristics:

1) Eyes. Usually small with small eyelids.

2) Thick eyebrows.

3) Sides of the nose is fleshy. Fleshy earlobes.

4) Heavy Chin.

I wish to show you some pictures of my ESTP friends but I figured out it's not so nice revealing people. Some types do not like to be revealed. This type is one of them.

On general evaluation, they are considered the alphas. They are usually on top. They are quick-witted, usually very good at calculations, adventerous, can be very charming and also very impulsive.

They are usually non-emotional or clingy and they valued friendship greatly. They can be made into good friends because usually they do not hold grudges. They have little patience for emotionally needy or fake people.

If they have the first impression of you being intimidating, they will tend to be very cautious or sometimes a snob in front of you. Once the barrier is broken, they can be great friends. It took three years for me to break a barrier with a female ESTP. She is extremely a good friend to me now. I had to show that I was vulnerable in order for her to let her guards down.

ESTP males tend to behave oddly in front of me. They think of females as females and they are extremely flirty. They have the tendency to flirt a lot. Think James Bond. He is an ESTP. Once being hurt, they will resort to becoming a player and not believing in love & relationships for a very long time.

The reason why I find it hard to read an ESTP because they build walls with people. They refused to tell you what they think or how they feel, because they do not want people to know. As alphas, they do not like outsiders or enemies to know their weaknesses. Another reason is that they change their mind so frequent. Their minds change from time to time. They are rarely consistent. Besides that, as Thinkers, sometimes they do not tell people their problems unless people can really help with it.

Their strengths usually lie in being charming, extremely good at making decisions based on cost-benefit analysis, adventerous, the leadership type and have a very sharp mind.

Their weaknesses lies in their love and relationships, their love for risks and also their big mouth. Adventure-seeking ESTPs will find it hard to stay in monogamous relationships. They will tend to jump from one relationship to another,seeking love or someone to really understand them. They tend to get distracted easily by attractive looking people. Or either that, they have to tendency to stick to a partner who will abuse them.

They also enjoy taking risks. It's part of their lives. You can expect extreme slopes living with an ESTP. With the highs and lows. They enjoy businesses and they dare to think and dream big. Because of their intelligence which is above the average, they tend to get ahead faster and better than others.

However, their weakness which is being too overconfident without being hands-on on a certain project and taking too much risks plus high leverage which will lead them to failures. Relationships will also tend to screw their careers. For example, Tiger Woods whom was reported to be a sex addict and cheating on his wife had lost few contracts. Donald Trump was married for three times. Although he was a real estate mogul, he was highly in debt.

Immature ESTPs will get into trouble by talking too much or being overconfident. Donald Trump got slammed by Obama recently. Donald Trump was saying that Obama was not fit to be a president and indirectly hinted that people should vote for Trump to be President. While Donald was busy questioning about Obama's birth certificate and all, Obama has already planned to kill the world's most wanted so-called criminal; Osama.

Watch this on how Obama took down Trump.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k8TwRmX6zs4&feature=related

Moral of the story; don't talk too much or pick fights with someone who is stronger and has more power than you although you may seem intelligent and capable. Never underestimate your opponent too.

The kind of mates ESTP are attracted to are usually ; ISFJ, ISTJ and INFP.

ESTP guys like demure girls but not too clingy. Whatever is it, one of the most important factor is good looking and straightforwardness.

ESTP females may prefer smarter guys but because they are smarter than average girls and guys, finding a match may be really tough.

Deep inside the ESTP:

1. More often anot, despite their high intelligence, they are always confused about their existence.
2. They want to enjoy life, jumping from one relationship to another, changing careers, travel place to place. They are always looking for something new, hoping to find that special something, or a feeling.
3. Around the people they respect, they tend to be more quiet. They have low patience for stupid, clingy people and stoners.
4. They are very good with directions.
5. Although they are Perceivers, they tend to be very neat.
6. Their ideal partner is someone stable, a follower, someone who listens to them when they rant and able to make decisions without being too excited about possibilities or spoilt by choices. Someone open to their ideas of fun.
7. Partners of ESTP can expect alot of adventure and fun in the relationship. ESTPs are also very generous in buying gifts for their mates.
8. ESTPs are very brand conscious. They enjoy luxury goods especially clothings or gadgets.

How to communicate with an ESTP:

1. Listen to them. Laugh at their jokes.
2. Respect them.
3. Join them for fun. They are very spontaneous.
4. Don't be too serious or too blur.
5. Be honest and sincere. They can spot fakeness and shoot you down with it.

Example of Famous ESTPs:

1. Lady Gaga
2. Madonna
3. Donald Trump
4. Tiger Woods
5. Bruce Wayne (Batman)
6. James Bond
7. Jackie Chan
8. Eddie Murphy
9. Kimora

Funny Exam Answers

Alright

It took a long time.

But I'm okay now.

I'm okay now.

I am getting it back again.

Thanks to Will and Charisse.

Talking to the Fan