Male's Insecurities

Everybody has their insecurities. As much as females have their insecurities, such as their weight, the size of their chest, colour of their skin and others, males have their own insecurities too. Below I have listed down some of insecurities and ideas on how a girlfriend can convince her man no matter what size or shape, or what he has, or how "better" other guys are out there, he is the one she loves and there is no reason for love. You just can't explain it at all. You just love him.

It is always normal for lovers to ask what they think of each other. So here you go; the things that men may feel insecure about and suggestions on how to deal with them.

1. Tummy

Belly can be resulted from lack of exercise and high consumption of alcohol. As fats goes down to female's hips, fats travel to the belly part. Some men tend to feel insecure when other men took out their shirts or when they see their girlfriends ogling at another man's six/eight packs.

Solution: Exercise! Lots of it! And reduce the amount of alcohol you take!

What the girlfriend can say : You are so comfortable like a bed. But I will probably devour you more often if you have tighter and firmer abs.

2.Height

At the first glance, or impression, height shows ranking over humans. The indirect assumption of taller people have more "authority" over others. Very often, this is not true when you get to know someone better. Some men tend to feel inferior when other men tower them. They feel even worse when their girl/dates purposely wear flats while hanging around them. But then again, the height does not matter, the length does, in bed. [Got this from someone ;)]

Solution: If it is really a must, giraffe shoes? Or boots?

What a girlfriend can say when the topic is being brought up: Does it bother you? Because it doesn't to me.

3. Being Skinny

Being skinny often mistaken as being "weak". This is not very true as I have known some thin guys who are actually stronger. Thin guys look good in formal wear because of the length of their body. They tend to look sharp. Sometimes, thin people are being labelled as "unappetizing" by some women and men. Do not jump into conclusion too fast about their performance.

Solution: Usually thin people have high metabolism, so eating a lot does not help much. Taking protein? But isn't it high maintenance and isn't being healthy is what matters?

What a girlfriend can say when the topic is being brought up: Honey, with this weight, you are already squashing me, I cannot imagine when you are much heavier. Let's see if you can squash me to death.

4. Wealth

Everybody know what money means. Money may not be everything, but without money, you're nothing. Sometimes you wish you could drive a bigger car to fetch your darling or buy expensive branded stuff for her, so she can feel proud of having a "rich" boyfriend. Sometimes, wealth is a sign of status or power. The wealthier you are, the more powerful you are. It is normal for males to have the desire to be more dominant than others. But not everybody is born with a silver spoon in their mouth, some are plain lucky to have wealthy parents, some have sufficient to support themselves, some barely have enough.

Solution : Get your ass up and start working. Sometimes, it's not about the money girls are after, it shows your determination to push yourself further. If you are unable to take care of yourself, how can she rely on you to take care of her? It's the sense of security females are usually looking for, which also shows your commitment to the relationship.

What girls can say when the topic is being brought up: I love you for who you are, not for what you have. (Do not take these words for granted, guys)

5. Betrayal

You may be bitter by your past experiences, or by childhood experiences, perhaps terrified by the cheating stories you heard and happened to your friends. You are afraid, but you love her and you want to be with her. But betrayal is something you can never accept, forgive and forget. It makes you look like a fool. It questions your judgement on the person and puts you in constant fear of losing her. So you start being very "protective" and "controlling". And the poor girl chokes by your insecurities.

Solution: Bear in mind that the girl you are with now is not your ex, mother, or your friend's girlfriend. It hurts her to know that you do not trust her. Perhaps you are having confidence issues with yourself. Maybe you are feeling that you are not good enough for her? What makes you feel so? Get to the bottom of the problem and solve it on your own, not by taking it all out on the poor girl.

What a girl can do: Convince that he is the best for you. If he feels that he is not good enough, maybe the truth is that you are not doing enough for him to make him feel in such a way. Suggest a break if you can never seem to put his mind at peace. He has his issues to deal with, and only him can save himself.

6. Tiny Weenie

He is one sexy man. He has all the abs, the muscles and all. When you get naked with him, you found a surprise from his department store.

The length and size of his secret weapon does not match your expectations. You were shocked and very surprised. You wonder if he can satisfy you with such blunt blade.

Solution: Surgery for penis enlargement? Medication? Or perhaps the length and size doesn't matter, as long it achieves the ultimate motive: to produce offsprings.

What a girl should do : Run. Dump that guy for deceiving you. You deserve better.