Intriguing Men

There are certain kind of men that I find intriguing. Out of 50-70 person I have met, perhaps only one that I find very interesting. The kind of person that I find attractive are the ones who are true to themselves. You have to realize that getting someone to like you has nothing to do with the person, but has everything to do with you. There is no point in trying to be someone else. You may wrongly misrepresented yourself and attract the wrong kind of mate. If a person doesn't like/is attracted to you, maybe the person isn't right for you.

Anyway, these are few characteristics that I find intriguing in a man:


1) Doesn't easily get impressed by attractive women

Majority of the guys out there tend to act extra interested at the very sight of an attractive female. When a guy does that, he appeared to be just another guy who is impressed by her beauty and will do anything to get a date with her. Women are used to having such guy around them and therefore, he would just be another person in the crowd of hot-blooded males.

A man who doesn't easily get impressed by attractive-looking women conveys the message that it takes more than looks to impress him. He would appear to be a guy who isn't appear to be easy to please and thus, triggers the curiosity of the woman and she would find herself subconsciously attracted to him.



2) Knows what he wants in life and how to get there

A man who doesn't know what he wants or what to do with his life is definitely a turn-off. A hardworking, determined and intelligent man are traits all women would find attractive. Naturally, in a relationship/marriage, a man is expected to take the lead. If he doesn't know what to do, how to take care of himself and doesn't know how to make the right decisions, how can a woman rely on him?

We all have to face it. Life is also about surviving. Living things need to compete in order for survival. Even animals; whether for shelter, food or a mate. But what makes us different from animals is that the only person we need to challenge is ourselves. A man who frequently test his limits and push himself beyond his boundaries gives women a feeling that he is strong and would to able to tackle anything that would come in their way.

A man can talk all he wants and would do in life. Here comes the question, if you know what you want, how do you get there? Being practical and realistic is also important. If a man fantasizes like a woman does (you know women, they have their fairytales and crazy expectations/desires), both the couple would live in their dreams forever and the woman would frequently complained about what happen to their dreams etc. I do not want to be that kind of woman. I want someone strong enough to run in this race of life. Strong determination with the right sense of rationality that is.


3)Someone who handles criticism well

The eagerness to please is natural to some people. These kind of people are very sensitive to other people's feelings and are very careful about what they say or do. A perfectionist in human relationships, I would say. So what happens when someone throw a criticism or lash at them? They got offended.

What the person would do? Three things. One, start to behave defensively by trying to throw back witty/sarcastic/bang remarks at the other person. Two, ignore and laugh it off. Three, think about why the person has said so.

Option three is brilliant I would say. When a person says something you do not like, think about why did they say so. Is it a criticism that is constructive or just meant to hurt you? We all know that a constructive criticism can be helpful. We do not want more lies or fakeness that would leave us in the dark. If it's just meant to hurt you, do not fall for the trick. Walk away from the fool. Whenever this happens, remember this quote:

"Do not argue with a idiot, he will drag you down to his level and beat you with experience."

4)Loves His Family

A man who have dinner regularly with his family, run errands for his parents and take them out sometimes is a man worth a second look. I usually find men who has younger siblings attractive, especially when he takes care of them and take them out sometimes. He gives the picture and idea of creating a happy family.

5) An Intelligent Man

Which woman doesn't like to be in the arms of an intelligent man? An intelligent man is much more attractive than a well-built-body man. Body is something that can be built with suitable diet and tremendous hours in the gym. But intelligence is something more valuable and not easily attainable. We live in the world of 21st century. We are not hunters, we do not need to be extremely physically strong to survive. Very often, the one with the brains is the winner.

Don't get me wrong. I do not mean burying your head in books, hanging around playing mind and strategies is enough. And nevermind the big belly and flabby arms. What I meant is men should not only focus on developing your physical to attract females, they should develop their mind as well to gain a wider perspective in life.

Intelligence is a very subjective word. In fact, there are 8 types of intelligence:

1. Linguistic and verbal intelligence : good with words

2. Logical intelligence: good with maths and logic

3. Spatial intelligence: good with pictures

4. Body/movement intelligence: good with activities

5. Musical intelligence: good with rhythm

6. Interpersonal intelligence: good with communication

7. Intrapersonal intelligence: good with analyzing things

8. Naturalist intelligence: good with understanding natural world

So which intelligence do you have?

I have a talent for identifying intelligence in people. Personally, I would be attracted to logical, body/movement and intrapersonal intelligence. Logical and body/movement because I suck at it. Intrapersonal because usually it's hard for me to find people who can get my jokes or what I meant. It would be fun teasing each other and discussing various issues in life.

6)Well-groomed man

The way you present yourself speaks out who you are. I'd like a man with class.

Short hair. Nicely shaved face. Clean teeth and fingernails. Elegant dressing.(No need silly words or fancy details on the clothes) Watch would be a bonus. The colour of belt matches the shoes.

That's it. Simple. Time to take this guy to meet the family and friends.

And finally,

7)Someone I can be myself with,

Feeling good with someone is hardly about that person, it's about how the person makes you feel about yourself. I bet most of us has heard this quote, "I love you not because of who you are, it's because of who I am when I am with you."

That's it for now. You may or may not agree with the points I stated above. But anyway, thanks again for reading.